SISU is a Finnish construct used to describe the extraordinary determination, courage, and resoluteness that enables individuals to push through extreme adversity. At the core of sisu is the belief that in each of us, there is more strength than meets the eye. Here at Sisu Strong, LLC, we use our experience and expertise with high-conflict individuals and the family court system to help clients embrace their inner strength and strategically confront divorce, child custody, and co-parenting challenges.
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Divorce is one of the most stressful experiences a person will face in a lifetime. A divorce or child custody battle with a high-conflict individual can take that stress to a level few can understand, and without the right support, it can be emotionally, psychologically, and financially crippling.
A high-conflict divorce coach can help you navigate divorce, child custody, and co-parenting issues with a high-conflict individual. We can help you:
"No one can dim the light that shines from within."
- Maya Angelou
A Santa Clara University study showcases the unique challenges of divorcing a high-conflict individual:
"Instead of the typical motivation toward settlement, these cases feature a party who is drawn toward, rather than away from, conflict. Whether animated by a genuine belief in their cause, anger over the loss of a relationship, a desire to harass their now-opponent, an affinity for the pageantry of court, or some combination of these factors and others, the litigious client presses the family law court into service.
What distinguishes cases involving high-conflict personalities from these more typical disputes is that the individual with a high-conflict personality is not simply struggling to process a life transition. Instead, this individual is fueled by conflict; indeed, they obtain emotional or psychological gratification from it. One of the hallmarks of these cases is that the conflict is so protracted that it becomes normalized. Rather than progressing toward resolution, as time passes in these cases, the idea of a settlement grows increasingly remote."
Child custody battles with a high-conflict individual present challenges that most professionals have difficulty navigating. High-conflict individuals typically see themselves as the victims. When their own behavior or abuse causes the child(ren) to pull away from them, they frequently make false allegations of parental alienation to blame the healthy parent, or even the child(ren), for the consequences of their own damaging choices and behaviors.
Most high-conflict custody battles are propelled by the high-conflict individual's need to control, desire to "win" at all costs, and drive to hurt or punish the healthy parent. Their unhealthy motivations, driven by unwarranted rage and revenge, often override their ability to act in the best interest of the child(ren).
Without the right support, this post-separation abuse can have immediate and long-lasting effects on both the healthy parent and the child(ren). In order to cope with this difficult mental, physical, and financial process, a high-conflict divorce coach can help you strategically advocate for your child(ren)'s safety.
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